Some time ago,a man in Taiwan was so passionate about running marathons that his wife felt he was neglecting the family. He even left her in the hospital to participate in a race while she was hospitalized. The judge ruled that after years of marriage, their differing views and ideas led to emotional estrangement. The husband spent too much time on running and neglected his marriage, leading to their divorce.

This news became a hot topic among many runners. Many people thinkthis man loves running more than his partner, preferring marathons over spending time with his wife. But in Wu Yanzu's view,this situation is just an extreme case.

In fact, loving running and caring for the family are not fundamentally conflicting. Most families support their members in engaging in sports actively. Often, one family member's love for sports can inspire the whole family to enjoy it. The key is to maintain a balance between running and life.

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What was the cause of the divorce?

The man's surname is Li. When his wife sadly filed for divorce, Li claimed he still loved her but was clumsy with words and didn't know how to express it.Li, who works as a police officer, pointed out that since 2008, he had registered for 108 races, averaging only 13 per year, or one per month. He argued that his running only took up one morning and did not deprive his wife of weekend time together.

His wife, however, believed that most marathons were held in other counties, requiring him to leave a day early or in the middle of the night. She felt that he spent almost all his free time on marathons and had even participated in three races in one month.

The appellate court believed that while marathons are not inherently a bad hobby, excessive enthusiasm and time spent on them could lead to neglecting the marriage and caring for the wife.

Li's wife noted that despite living under the same roof, they couldn't communicate face-to-face, and her husband resorted to messaging apps. She felt helpless about Li's indifference. When she proposed divorce, he responded, 'I think you need to see a doctor,' and 'You are sick.'

The judge considered the significant cracks in their marriage. The mutual support and coexistence of the couple and family no longer existed. Since their separation at the end of December 2015, they had no substantial positive interaction, and their relationship grew increasingly distant. Although Li wanted to maintain the marriage, he did not actively try to save it. The court found that their differing views and ideas made reconciliation impossible and ruled for their divorce.

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A healthy lifestyle brings positive energy

Research shows that family members living together tend to adopt similar lifestyles. In other words, two people who originally didn't know each other will tolerate and get used to each other's lifestyles after getting married, and their lifestyles will become more similar.

If one family member chooses a more active and healthy lifestyle or tries to change their overweight body, this can create positive pressure on other family members. They may also choose healthier lifestyles, such as participating in their favorite sports and opting for healthier diets.

Running, because it is simple and can be done anytime and anywhere, has become the first choice for many people to exercise.In this context, most families support their members in running or participating in marathons because it represents positive energy, an optimistic attitude, and a more responsible attitude towards the family. Long-term health of family members is the foundation of a harmonious and happy family.

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Family sports activities, get to know them

The man in Taiwan was forced to divorce because of his passion for marathons, which seemed to take up the time he could have spent with his wife. This possibility certainly exists.

But from another perspective, running does not necessarily take away family time. Often, the father runs marathons while the mother and children cheer him on, creating a beautiful picture of family harmony. Sports tourism has truly taken off thanks to the popularity of marathons.

Many cities are experienced through running marathons. Not only do individuals run, but they also bring their families along. On one hand, it's about running marathons; on the other, it's about sightseeing. This kind of sports tourism not only effectively enhances family relationships but also greatly promotes the development of sports tourism.

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There's nothing wrong with rationally loving something

In a traditional society like China, parents often make great sacrifices for their families and children. For example, a mother might revolve around her children every day, and a father might focus on his busy work, gradually losing their hobbies and pursuits. For instance, mothers might stop caring about their appearance and dressing up, and the daily grind of cooking and household chores can greatly diminish one's interest in life.

But in fact, maintaining some personal space, not giving up personal hobbies, and pursuing beautiful things helps keep a love for life. Being a mom who loves life, loves her children, loves sports, loves dressing up, and keeps a good figure—what's wrong with that?

Running is just like that. When you run, you are completely alone, which allows you to release yourself and also gain a good figure. As a family member, you should always have a little hobby of your own!

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Parents who love sports will have healthier children

China's new generation of parents, most of whom have received higher education, generally have higher incomes or have entered the middle class. They actively engage in sports and pursue a healthy lifestyle, which naturally passes on to the next generation.

In real life, it's not hard to find parents who run marathons bringing their children to participate in parent-child runs, outdoor-loving parents taking their kids hiking to appreciate the beauty of nature, and fathers and sons playing soccer together on the field. Such families are becoming more and more common.

An obvious phenomenon is that the higher the education level of the parents, the more they recognize the value of sports. Parents who actively participate in sports are more likely to guide their children to participate in sports. This is of course logical and easy to understand. Parents have a great influence on their children; they are the most important sports mentors for their kids.

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Finding a balance between personal hobbies and family

Of course, turning running marathons into chasing marathons, participating in various races every weekend and not being home, can indeed seem strange over time. So, it's important to maintain a balance between personal hobbies and family care. For example, you can do the following:

1. Don't run marathons too frequently. Frequent marathons not only increase physical burden and lead to injuries but also take away time that could be spent with family.

2. Encourage family members to engage in running or other sports. One person exercising is not as enjoyable as the whole family exercising together.

3. Exercise with your children more often or accompany them in their activities, planting the seed of a love for sports in their hearts from a young age.

4. If possible, choose to exercise in the early morning or afternoon, leaving the evening time to spend with family. This doesn't mean you can't run at night.

5. Plan your running during weekends and holidays reasonably. You can still run while traveling or on vacation. Don't let running training take away opportunities to bond with your family.

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