exclusive secrets: how to approach girls at the gym without getting punched
Recently, a friend told me that he saw a girl at the gym who always works out alone. He hesitated for a long time, wanting to strike up a conversation, but didn't have the courage. He asked me if I had any tips.
Actually, my first reaction wasn't about tips or techniques, but to ask my friend:
Are you sure she's alone? Is her boyfriend not around? Does she have a personal trainer?
My friend replied that he wasn't sure. I laughed and patted him on the shoulder, saying:
"Buddy, when hitting on a girl at the gym, your first concern should be your own safety. What if she has a boyfriend who happens to be her trainer?"
Just kidding. Even if she has a boyfriend, I believe most girls would directly tell you, making you back off politely.
But if the girl happens to be single and you want to get to know her, are there any tips or things to be aware of?
Strictly speaking, techniques don't significantly impact the success of striking up a conversation. Whether someone is willing to talk to a stranger depends on their first impression, which is shaped by your demeanor, attire, posture, etc. So while techniques aren't crucial, they can certainly help.
In other words, techniques for hitting on a girl at the gym are more about adding a nice touch rather than making or breaking the situation. Understanding this, we can discuss some tips.
Don't approach her while she's in the middle of a workout set.
This brings us to the timing of the approach. The primary purpose of going to the gym is to train. If she's in the middle of a set, her mind is focused on her reps. At this moment, if a stranger suddenly says:
"Can I get to know you?"
You can imagine her internal monologue:
Your approach at this time would be a negative because the timing is off. It would come across as very impolite, significantly lowering your chances of success.
So remember, don't interrupt her during her workout.
When is the best time then?
The answer is right after she finishes a set and is resting.
At this moment, she's taking a break and her mind is more open to new things.
It's like when you're working on a computer and a program window suddenly pops up—it's annoying. But after a workout, her mind is like a freshly rebooted computer, very responsive. So this is a great time to approach her.
What should you say first?
Before answering what to say, Ifirst need to tell you what not to say.
The worst thing you can do is walk up to her and seriously say:
"Hi, I often work out at this gym. My name is XXX, I work at XXX, I'm XX years old, and I've noticed you for a while. Can I get to know you?"
This kind of introduction makes people suspect you're a salesperson or a scammer.
Moreover, girls generally dislike questions that require processing a lot of information.
Who you are, how old you are, where you work—none of this matters to her. Since you've given her useless information, why would she want to get to know you or give you her contact information?
The right approach is to directly compliment her physique.
Think about it, why does she go to the gym?
It's definitely to improve her body.
From a psychological perspective, complimenting someone on their efforts and results is the most appreciated form of praise. So you can simply walk up to her and say, "Your form was great, and you have an amazing physique."
At this moment, her first reaction to the compliment will likely be positive, like saying "thank you." This puts her in a good mood, making it easier to continue the conversation.
As for what to say next,
you need to think about it based on the situation, including her workout, current trends, her attire, etc.
One technique I find effective is starting with astrology.
"Based on the intensity and frequency of your workout,
I feel like you might be a fire sign.
Are you a Leo?"
This cleverly links astrology with fitness. If you guess correctly, her impression of you will improve significantly. Even if you don't, she'll still find your approach interesting.
Why?
Because psychologically, no one dislikes being evaluated by others.
Guessing her zodiac sign is based on her outward appearance, which will pique her curiosity. This curiosity is the driving force behind your approach.
Lastly, besides techniques, the most important thing is confidence.
After all, you're hitting on a girl at the gym. If you're overweight, your chances are definitely lower than someone with a great body.
So the key is to first work on your own physique at the gym!
Even if you have a great body, you need to be confident.
A girl working out at the gym is likely someone who values confidence. If you're not confident, she'll notice immediately, which won't help your chances.
So, young man, work hard on your body at the gym and bring out your confidence. Who knows, you might just find a romantic connection at the gym.
After all, it's good to have dreams.
